Why do bad things keep happening?

Have you ever felt that bad things keep happening to you? Well, I sure did.

When I was a little girl my dad molested me

As a teenager I tried to commit suicide twice. I was a mess. 

I was so close with my mom, that my world fell apart when she died.

I have been married twice. My first husband remained my closest companion until he passed away. Although we had divorced, we still considered each other family. Our son was just 14 years old when his father passed away, leaving me to fulfill both parental roles during a crucial period of his adolescence. While I acknowledge that I wasn’t perfect, I made every effort to do my best.

My second spouse was diagnosed with schizophrenia, but he refused to take medication. It was a tumultuous time in my life as his illness made everything seem chaotic and unstable.

(I began searching for facilities to admit myself to, as I started to believe that I was mentally unwell) 😣

We lost our coaching business and the marriage ended 💔

I lost my home at that time 🏡

After a few years, I encountered an exceptional man with whom I discussed the possibility of living together. When he inquired about my ring size, I was overjoyed. Unfortunately, two weeks before our planned move-in date, he terminated our relationship because of unresolved childhood traumas that impeded his ability to love fully.

I ended up sleeping on my son’s sofa.

I pondered and concluded that perhaps being in a relationship was not in the cards for me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just four months later, I was hit with the devastating news of losing three of my cousins to a tragic murder-suicide. It was a bewildering and heartbreaking experience, leaving me wondering how such a thing could happen in my own family.

After four months, the pandemic swept in, and I received the shocking news of being diagnosed with kidney cancer 💔

The thought of my impending death crossed my mind, and the idea of leaving my son without any parents was a daunting one.

After undergoing surgery to remove the cancer, I experienced breathing difficulties for more than a year. 

However, three years later, I am now in good health and able to breathe much more easily 😀

In spite of everything that was stacked against me, I maintained a positive outlook and firmly believed that life had greater plans in store for me. It was as if the universe was testing me, to see if I was truly deserving of my ambitious goals.

I relaunched my coaching business in 2019 with the aim of supporting individuals who are facing life challenges that are hindering their success in life. 

Whenever a difficult situation arose, I made a conscious effort to focus on the positive aspects of my life. Here are some of the steps I took to cope, in the hopes that they may also be of benefit to you:

        Practice gratitude: It may be difficult to feel grateful when things are going wrong, but taking a moment to reflect on the good things in your life can help shift your perspective and bring positivity into your mindset.

        Identify patterns: Look for patterns in the situations that are causing you distress. Are there certain people or situations that always seem to bring negativity into your life? Identifying these                  patterns can help you avoid or better cope with them in the future.

        Take control: Identify areas in your life where you have control and take action to improve them. This can help you feel empowered and lessen the feeling that bad things are always happening  to you.

        Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about what you’re going through. They can provide emotional support and may be able to offer new perspectives on the  situation. Remember you are not alone. 

        Practice self-care: Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and engaging in activities you enjoy. These practices can help improve your mental and physical health  and provide a sense of balance and stability in your life.

Remember it’s important to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work towards improving your situation. With time, effort and love, it is possible to conquer the sensation of perpetual misfortune and discover greater positivity and joy in your life.

Life is happening for you, not to you! ♥️

I came to the realization that my greatest source of happiness is derived from helping individuals who have encountered significant challenges in their lives. 

If you have any questions about how you can face the blockages in your life, feel free to put them in the comment section below so others can get some value as well, or in the DM’s if you feel like it’s too private. 

Here’s to your magnificent life! 

I’m here for you,

Aviva 🙏❤️

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